Seun Kilanko

I must confess that it is so frustrating putting all your best into something and all you get from it is not worth the level of energy that has been invested into it.

Losing out on something or someone is not what anybody loves. However, you might be losing out not because you have not done your best but just because you have left the necessary things undone.

Don’t be surprised because there are times when we feel there are no stones left unturned and just to find out that there a couple of them that has not been touched at all. How funny and disappointing it might be!

This post will be looking at issues on why our long awaited dreams or ambitions don’t seem forthcoming. However, at the end of this post, you must have been fully hinted on what you can do to make your dream a reality.

I have come to understand over time that a lot of people have something they dream of possessing. For instance: a type of house, a brand of car, a particular type of home they dream to have in the future and so on. However, as time rolls by I don’t see them really possess all these things simply because they are still at the level of dreaming and they have never taken any action towards possessing them. Even if they took some actions towards the possession of these stuffs, I have noticed that it is not a well calculated action.

I need to remind you that life does not give you what you deserve or desire but rather what you are determined to get. A dream will remain a dream until you have taken the right steps towards making it a reality.

I have watched with rare sympathy and it really pains me when I notice that a lot of us expect to achieve our dreams but…

We have no set goals to the achievement of our dreams

What I mean is that some of us have a dream but how we are going to achieve the dream, we don’t know. A lot of us are familiar with the saying that the failure to plan is the plan to fail. Looking at it, it seems like having a destination in mind (the next filling station or phone call centre) you want to reach and not knowing the way/path to the destination. That is exactly the way it is.

I need to be very candid with you that you never get to a destination you don’t know a way to- It’s extremely impossible. The first thing is knowing the way to a particular place (which seems like setting a goal) before you can actually get to the destination of your dream. Set your goals (know what needs to be done to achieving your dream) and you are surely on your way to achieving your dream.

We have not put the goal on paper

Research have shown that whatever we see have the power of motivating us than what cannot be seen. The idea of putting your goal into a written format is so that:

• You can be more sure of how to achieve your dream
• You can familiarize yourself with the challenges on the way
• You can be daily motivated to continue the journey to achieving your dream

It’s like going on an expedition and you have a fair or not too clear knowledge of the path to take then you get to a point on the way where you have a junction that has similar diverging paths and you don’t know which one to follow, a map of the journey should come handy in helping you on the next path to take. So it is when you put your goals on paper, it keeps you wary of anything that can mislead you on the way to achieving your dream.

We are not ready to change

I have come to understand that a lot of us have forgotten the fact that to achieve our dreams, we have to change those things that we do but we know are unproductive. You shouldn’t continue to do the same thing and expect a different result- No! Don’t you think what has kept you in this same position is your inability to change your position with your old methods and strategies of approaching life.

You need to consider a change of thought, environment, information and so on. Sitting too long at a point may make you weigh so much that progress might be one of the most difficult thing to do. You need to change your base to see new things. To get to where you have never got to, you must be ready to do what you have never done.

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