Seun Kilanko

Getting to the top in your career, personal life or whatever, might be a tough one or an easy stroll depending on the people you move with or the caucus you belong to. Relationship has a major role to play in our achieving purpose in life. I look back into my life and I see the impact of friends though some are positive while some are unavoidably negative.

Les Brown said, “There are two types of relationship; Nurturnal relationship and toxic relationship. Nurturnal relationship nurses you, helps you, challenges you, brings the best out of you, holds you accountable, and it keeps you focused. While toxic relationship drains you” Whatever you become is as a result of the relationship you are into. Who do you move with? Who is your best friend? Whose advice do you respect the most? That friend in your life according to Fela Durotoye does one of these things: Adds to you, Takes away from you, Multiplies you or Divides you into pieces.

A lot of us don’t care about the kind of people we move with and the kind of impact these people have over our lives. We move with the wrong set of people, listen to the wrong set of people and still expect our lives to be in any way better than before? No! Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God. When you give your ears to the word of God, faith in the word of God is born. When you give your ears to the word of man, faith in the word of man in born. Your eyes and ears are the gate way to your heart. What you hear often, goes into your heart and develops inside of you and therefore forms your outside and circumstances. As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.

Some people have great and promising future but the kinds of relationships they are into or the kinds of friends they have are gradually destroying their dreams and aspirations. I make bold to say this that great men and mere men are made by the kind of friends they have. Fela Durotoye said, “Show me your friend and I will tell you where you are going” He reiterated that your friends are the reflection of your future. What you will become in life can be determined by the kinds of friends you move with.

It is important that I put to your notice that you can’t blame anybody for the kind of friends you have. It’s your choice! You can’t determine the kind of family you belong to but the friends in your life are your choice. You need to understand that you don’t need everybody liking you but you only need the right person liking you. You should choose your friends and not the other way round.

You need to be loyal to your future than to your past. Sit down and make a list of the friends in your life and indicate if these people have been an addition, a subtraction, a multiplication or a division in your life. Does that relationship make you grow spiritually, financially, mentally and intellectually? Do these people challenge you and daily bring the best out of you or do they drain you and you see your self-worth vanish as the day goes by? Some friends are blessings while some are curses. You need to decide for yourself either the relationship is a productive one or an unproductive one and cut yourself from the unproductive ones for the sake of your future.

I will leave with what Jim Rohn said – “Look at the people in your life and ask this question, ‘What is this relationship doing to me?”

Never blame anybody for bringing out the worst in you. It’s your choice!

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